You Know Why. Now What?
What Rhiana Loves Treating
ADHD, But Make it Adulthood
Adult ADHD and executive dysfunction can affect far more than productivity. They show up in relationships, emotional regulation, household responsibilities, self-esteem, communication, parenting, and the stories you've developed about yourself after years of inconsistency.
I work especially well with adults diagnosed with ADHD later in life who are trying to figure out:
We can build practical systems. But we're also going to talk about the shame, perfectionism, relationship patterns, and years of being told you should simply try harder.
You probably own a planner already.
Your Childhood Keeps Joining Your Adult Relationships
I work with adults who want to understand how relationships with parents, early attachment experiences, trauma, emotional neglect, and family expectations continue to influence their marriages, friendships, boundaries, conflict styles, and sense of responsibility for other people's emotions.
This doesn't require deciding your parents were terrible people.
Two things can be true: someone may have done the best they could, and what you experienced may still have affected you.
Understanding both is often considerably more useful than deciding who was right.
Having a Baby? Your Childhood Would Like a Word.
I work with women who are considering children, trying to conceive, pregnant, or preparing for motherhood and suddenly finding themselves thinking much more seriously about the family they came from.
Maybe your mother was enormously successful but emotionally unavailable. Maybe achievement mattered a lot in your family. Maybe conflict was avoided, emotions weren't discussed, or you became independent because needing less was easier.
Now you're wondering: What happens when I'm the mom?
Therapy can give you space to think intentionally about your marriage, division of labor, boundaries with extended family, identity, career, parenting expectations, and which pieces of your upbringing you want to keep.
Get Your Shit Together
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Get Your Shit Together ⁎
Therapy for People Who Are Really Good at Looking Fine
You’re successful. Self-aware. Probably the person everyone calls when something goes wrong.
You can manage a career, a household, a crisis, and everyone else’s feelings before lunch. You’ve read the books. You know your attachment style. You can identify your family patterns with impressive accuracy.
And somehow, knowing exactly why you do what you do hasn’t stopped you from doing it.
I’m Rhiana Turner, LPC, LAC, and I work with adults who are ready for therapy to move beyond insight and into actual change. My specialties include adult ADHD and executive dysfunction, trauma and family-of-origin patterns, relationships, high-achieving women, and women preparing for motherhood.
Big Trauma. Bigger Careers.
Some people respond to difficult experiences by falling apart.
Others get really, really good at functioning.
Maybe you became independent early. Learned how to read a room. Figured out that achievement earned approval. Became the reliable one. Built a career around being competent under pressure.
Those adaptations can take you surprisingly far.
They can also leave you wondering why you're exceptional at managing a crisis but terrible at relaxing on a Saturday.
I work particularly well with high-achieving women whose lives look considerably easier from the outside than they feel from the inside.
Healing Through Community
Rhiana talks about the impact of a client’s gender, age, and life stage on treatment planning. Women often experience diverse stages of life due to changes in hormones, environment, motherhood, and more. She concludes the episode emphasizing the importance of community for an individual’s wellness and provides advice on ways to find a community that aligns with a person's background and interests.
Forbes Feature
Coronavirus: 36% Of Americans Say Pandemic Has Made A ‘Serious Impact’ On Their Mental Health
by Carlie Porterfield
Topline: As hospitals strain to keep up with an influx of coronavirus patients, some mental health providers report an increase in people seeking mental health treatment, as Americans report feeling anxious about the pandemic and its ramifications.
36% of Americans told an American Psychiatric Association poll that the pandemic has had a serious impact on their mental health, and according to a PiplSay poll, 31% of Americans say they’re sleeping less because of coronavirus-related anxiety.
As people self-quarantine, remote therapy services like Talkspace and Brightside have seen an increase in demand— Talkspace told Bloomberg it experienced a 65% increase in customers since mid February and Brightside has seen a 50% increase in new users since the start of the year.
Rhiana Holmes, a trauma therapist specializing in disaster psychology out of Denver, Colorado, has switched to virtual appointments in the name of social distancing, but told Forbes there’s been an increase in people reaching out about their mental health.
“My private practice has seen a huge uptick in new clients because people are feeling really anxious. Interestingly, many of them don't necessarily relate it to coronavirus— but if someone has pre-existing conditions like anxiety or depression, stress is likely to bring out problematic symptoms in light of the pandemic,” Holmes said.
Depression and anxiety “thrive on social isolation and disruption of routine,” Holmes said, making the coronavirus pandemic and resulting quarantines prime for mental health upheavals.
Down the line, more people may need treatment if they develop anxiety, depression or acute adjustment disorder from their time during the pandemic, or the more extreme post-traumatic stress disorder, Holmes said.
A person wearing a protective mask walks next to Myrtle Ave. in the Bushwick neighborhood of Brooklyn in New York City.
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Client Reviews
Rhiana does a great job getting to know you so she can help you more holistically. Not only will she address the issue you are calling for, but helps to identify underlying causes and provide coping skills so you are more prepared when future situations arise. I couldn't recommend Rhiana enough. She gives tough love when you need it but always supports you and values your feelings.
-AA
I always appreciate how Rhiana can meet me where I am depending on the day and circumstances occurring in my life. I’ve always felt extremely comfortable in all of our sessions and would recommend her to anyone looking to grow and heal through therapy.
-CC
I was with Rhiana for about 6 months and I loved every session with her. She is very understanding, but will also be very realistic with you. Because of Rhiana I was able to get that motivation to sort some things out in my life and am now feeling more secure and confident with myself.
-JR
I’ve been seeing Rhiana for 6-7 months. I always learn something in every session, which I appreciate. She helps me gut check my own reactions and dive into old history. On one occasion I needed an emergency session (it was a Friday night or course!) and she was able to respond within an hour. It was so appreciated.
-EP
Rhiana is incredibly friendly, personable, and judgement free. I've found it really easy to open up to her to really move forward in productive ways. She's also really funny. I've enjoyed working with her so much in the past, I've followed to multiple platforms.
-KM
I did not know how bad I needed this appointment until it started! She was incredible and showed so much patience and kindness.
-MC
I have suffered from PTSD and childhood sexual abuse. I saw four different therapists before I was introduced to Rhianna. Her wisdom, care, and experience show she is genuinely invested in her patient's well-being. I would recommend her to anybody because I fully trust her and her counsel. She has made a pathway that has changed my life.
-SG
My visits are always very good. She is always on time and is also flexible to fit our meetings into my schedule. She is helping me with all of the things I need help with along with helping me understand my ADHD better so I can be more in tune with myself. I have always gained something from our conversations and enjoy continuing my self care journey with her help.
-RB
I’ve only had 1 visit so far, and this is my first time seeing a therapist. I was nervous, but she was incredibly easy to talk to. This appointment was primarily talking through what I want to accomplish in therapy and we set a loose game plan for the next session. So far, I love this experience.
-Anonymous former client
“If you only read the first sentence, then I highly recommend Rhiana as a therapist. She's great! If you want details: I have been talking with Rhiana for a few years, and I am so happy with our sessions. She has helped me process the loss of a pet, grad-school, and childhood issues. Through good or bad times, she has made it easy to feel comfortable sharing my thoughts and feelings. She has always been kind, flexible, and comfortable to talk to. She will listen, support and encourage you. She will also challenge you to think, feel, and develop. I've never felt judged or looked-down on by her, and if a loved one was looking for a therapist I would be more than happy to recommend Rhiana.”
—MT
